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A (sort of) Simple Solution for Anxiety, Distraction and Disconnection

Just put down your phone. There I said it! Often in conversations with clients, there are complaints of feeling unable to focus on tasks like they used to, a general sense of unease that might include trouble getting to sleep, muscle tension, and feeling generally stressed and unsettled. Previously prolific readers are finding it hard…

Social Anxiety Strategy—Lab Coat and Clip Board

Anxious about an interaction or event coming up? Just put on a lab coat and grab your clipboard!  A fun intervention that I use with clients is to imagine that when they are going to do something that may provoke social anxiety or avoidance is to use the posture of “doing an experiment” instead of…

What is Codependency?

My work as a therapist focuses mostly on helping people recover from neglectful, or traumatic childhoods. Beyond PTSD, one of the manifestations of early life trauma tends to be the way codependent patterns and behaviors show up in relationships. Codependency is not a mental health diagnosis, rather it is a pattern of behavior that causes,…

EMDR in the News 

EMDR got a big boost in public awareness a few years back when Oprah interviewed Prince Harry, and he allowed an EMDR session to be videotaped and shown. I will confess I did not watch this but did see that Inside Edition covered it and noted that actor Evan Rachel Wood is also a client…

What is EMDR Therapy actually like?

EMDR is described as an 8-phase, 3-pronged treatment based on the “Adaptive Information Processing Model” (AIP). So what the heck does that mean? The AIP model states that the brain is wired to adaptively (positively) process all the sensory information it gets, but that sometimes an experience can get “stuck” with all the information present…

What is EMDR? Is it a real thing? How does it work?

It’s a real thing. This is the therapeutic practice known as “Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy”, which employs back-and-forth eye movements while recalling traumatic events to reduce distress when the event is remembered (desensitization) and convince the brain that the event is no longer something to be afraid of or preoccupied with (reprocessing). In…

Habits that Increase Our Anxiety

In a previous post, I discussed the ways our thoughts and bodies impact our experience of anxiety. In this post, I want to cover the habits and behaviors that many of us engage in that increase anxiety. Caffeine and other Substances Number one in my book is caffeine misuse or even use at all, if…

The Path to A Less Anxious Mind and Body (Part Two)

In the previous post, I discussed the impact of thoughts on anxiety, and now want to discuss the part 2 of the misery trifecta – the body. In recent years, therapy interventions that focus on the body have become much more popular. Many people have heard of the book The Body Keeps The Score by…

The Path to A Less Anxious Mind and Body

I’ve been a therapist for quite a few years now, and I will admit it is only within the last few that I have really gotten skilled at treating anxiety, and anxiety-related problems like insomnia and panic. The big game changer has been the increased focus on somatic, or body-based techniques. Maybe it was my future…

 I’m Sorry Your Mom Sucks

It’s a controversial statement, obviously. But one recent week, I found myself sitting with three different clients and these were the words that played in my mind. As a psychotherapist who treats people suffering from the sequelae of difficult childhoods, I see day in and day out how harmful parenting impacts people. I’m a mother…